🤫 Whisper #15: Love for your colleagues
Expressing the 5 love languages at work.
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Whisper #15
Expressing love for colleagues
The Five Love Languages is a book by Gary Chapman that explains the concept of how people tend to give or receive love. TLDR is that we all have a preference for the ways that people show us love or appreciation. The other four languages are usually much less effective. If you know someone’s preferred love language, you should try to show them love in that way. It will mean more to them.
While the 5 Love Languages are typically conceived for the romantic concept, today’s Whisper implores you to consider this framework when showing appreciation and care for your colleagues, too 💕
A 1-minute primer on the 5 love languages
Words of affirmation are about giving compliments and verbal recognition.
Acts of service are about doing helpful things, big or small.
Quality time is about focused, meaningful connection.
Receiving gifts is about tokens of thoughtfulness, not extravagance.
Physical touch is about expressing connection through physical contact (given that this article is about work colleagues, we’re going to skip this one 😉)
Most of my closest friends are people I met at work, and I truly love them. When we worked together, I first admired their brilliance and capabilities. Over time, this admiration grew to care and affection beyond the job. I am sure there are colleagues at work who you appreciate and admire as well. Why not show them?